UPCOMING EVENTS!

See You There!

Parrys Hampton is cordially inviting you to her 26th birthday celebration: One Night with Parrys. This year all proceeds of the event will benefit Marriage Equality Rhode Island and the NO H8 Campaign, two amazing nonprofit organizations who are fighting for the same cause; to ban Proposition 8 and allow equal marriage rights for same-sex couples. Let’s face it, only marriage confers a unique legal statues recognized everywhere and any two people united by love should have the right to express that unity legally. This year’s benefit will be held at the ultra posh STATE Ultra Lounge and with a five dollar donation you will enjoy a fine night of horderves, complimentary champagne, amazing live performances from Providence’s elite, and fabulous door prizes that may I add are to die for. With emcee of events: bff Sarah Beyers! So please Providence, come out and support this wonderful cause and wish Ms. Hampton a happy birthday!!!

TONIGHT!

Wicked fun!

So us girls of the Ladies Social love to give a little back to the community and have as much fun as possible while doing so! So this week we have recruited the Imperial Court of RI to help us celebrate Providence’s hottest musical right now: Wicked! Along w the help of ICRI members Jacqueline, Savanah, Justinian & Roxxii..Sarah host this fun filled theme night this Wed 01/06. All show proceeds wll benefit the Imperial Court, who does so much to help local charites year round in RI & southern Mass. Same free parking, dance-floor w DJ AV8 and low, low admission as always!
Show to begin at 11:00 (to all performers: the 1st set is Wicked or Broadway theme and 2nd set is popular music in general). See you party-monsters there!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Friday night, shake that hangover and venture through the alley to Union St. where Sarah is filling in for Jackie Collins along w the new Miss Union Parrys Hampton. The girls are gonna shake up the regulars of Union’s Friday night show and get this New Years started of right! Come have some fun w us tonight people!

ho, ho, ho!

Get your holiday started tonight at the Dark Lady! The girls of the Ladies Social host the 2nd Annual Holiday Bash! Last year was a blast & this time will be one you don’t wanna miss! So get out the eggnog people & let’s get this holiday weekend started tonight!

ISN’T IT NICE WHEN..

ISN’T IT NICE WHEN..
The Family gets together for the holidays!

So, brief weekend in review:

Friday – Union/Eagle, Mirabar: So, thought you could get rid of Parrys that easily? Nope! Believe it or not, there is life outside of Snow Street. Yes, Parrys took her exiled act across the block to Union/Eagle. Joining the Jackie Collins & Friends show and capitalizing on her (RI Pride) Miss Union Title. Parrys, Natalie & Jackie, weird right? Seems it would be but that didn’t seem to stop the crowd from welcoming her and her decidedly risqué act to Union St. The show was hot as promised and Jackie was unusually animated that night, good fun times. After the show we decided to test the waters over at Mira. Not knowing for sure if Parrys was also banned there we cautiously entered. The crowd was a decent Friday night w good energy. Didn’t take long before we crossed paths w Paul Murphy who suspiciously eyed Ms. Hampton and then decided to (literally) look the other way. Although, not taking any chances, we are fairly certain that Mr. Murphy had her tailed the rest of the night by an undercover shot-boy! Priceless!

Saturday – Christmas Parties: Being equal opportunity girls we decided to split our time between two X-mas parties Sat night. One lesbian and one “gay-boy” party. No drama of any sort but the contrast was interesting, While the girl party was decidedly Martha Stewart-ish with wine, cocktail dresses, (cute touch w the gingerbread “girl” cookies) the boys party was, well…boys being boys. U know, junk-food on every counter and shots, shots & more shots. Both parties were enjoyable by their own right and we couldn’t thank the kind host/hostesses enough.

Sunday – Gallery/Wheels: Despite the rain we enthusiastically pumped to Pointe St. in preparation of the show we were asked to do for Scotty 2 Hottie (Mr. Gay RI). We were unpleasantly surprised to find the Gallery largely empty, other then Scotty and 6 or 7 RI Pride volunteers milling about. Try as he may, it seems Scotty just picked a bad weekend. With Holiday Parties, at least two other benefits on the same night and Christmas looming less then two weeks away – most people simply just could not fit it into their schedules. The show was unfortunately canceled and the event re-scheduled. Scottie’s disappointment could not be hidden but we are sure he’ll be back for another try!
Very important to note that despite popular gossip, Mr.Gay RI 2004 Tom Right DID NOT pee on the buffet at Gallery that night. That’s correct, we were there the entire time and it simply did not happen. Tom did however demonstrate his great showmanship and mount a chair directly in front of the buffet and cursed the food for (in his opinion) it’s less then appealing assortment. It was funny at the time and actually very innocent. While we are all about reminding people of their indecent public behavior, in this case it’s totally untrue and yes we have pictures AND video to back it up. Sorry to take away all your fun people but just thought we should set the record straight! Soooo, with plenty of drinking time left in the night we just had a funny feeling we should go to Wheels. Now usually Wheels is fairly quiet on a Sunday w mostly regulars but Sunday it was magical. For some reason just about EVERYONE else that was out and about had that same funny feeling that they should go there too! The juke-box had good tunes, the place was packed and the intoxication level in their was legendary! Even our Mirra boys stopped in for a drink. Yes, we’ll admit, we love that place!

Monday Night – Alley Cat: wait that’s not the weekend! Well if you don’t take Monday off from going out then technically it’s still the weekend to us. Anyway, Trivia is usually fun w Cathy O’ but Christmas themed trivia? Let’s just say, not our strongest category. Made all the more challenging by our foggy headed 3 day partying bender. No matter, we had fun, although we could probably have fun at a bus stop ; )

Tonight: Yes, Wed is apon us again! We had to displace our original theme idea of Battle of the “girl” Bands due to several team members (on both sides) not being available. We are therefore running with our default theme Ladies Social in its place. Regular open show, dance floor and usual Tranny antics. So no particular theme but when has THAT ever stopped us from having fun? See you there!

TIS THE SEASON..

For drama, lewd behavior, backstabbing & ignorance. Everyone is aware of this weekends events. It has been strangely quiet on this end and now after some time to reflect, it’s time to break the silence.
Snow is on the ground, Christmas is right around the corner, time for joy, love, peace, happiness. Yeah right! Understandably, the holidays can be a trying time for many of us in this community. It is however no excuse for unreasonable behavior.
Again we find ourselves hanging by a thread, trying to hold together a trans community of fragile alliances, friendships of opportunity or in some cases necessity, all the while walking on broken glass.
The trans community here in Providence is not unlike the gay community at large or just about any community of people, for that matter. Where a group of individuals share a common goal or belief and theoretically work together to achieve such goal. The key word here being “individuals”. Many stereotypes exist in the world concerning trans- women. While yes, we all do share many similarities there are many differences also. Some of us are professionals, parents, business owners etc, some are not. It’s not fair for all to be judged based on the actions of a few. To the gurls in the group, it’s no wonder people are quick to pass judgment. While some stories are sensationalized or even just false, it is true that usually where there is smoke there is fire. It’s not fair for all you girls to run wild cause chaos and mayhem, hate each other as well as yourself and leave Sarah once again, to pick up the pieces. There’s no doubt we have ALL contributed to the demise of our own community, weather it be Sarah bearing a little too much skin for lesbian hot-body contests, Elle’s exodus from the community, Nissa’s alienation from it, Paryss’s Christmas rampage or Ada’s crash n burn Dark Lady Friday’s, not to mention petty in-fighting, competition and jealousy amongst one another.
Listen girls, make no mistakes there was a time not very long ago where trans-girls were not very welcomed within the gay community. While it is not Sarah’s job nor responsibility to “pave the way” for others, I think it’s safe to say that her fundamental beliefs and passions have lent themselves to such circumstances. Furthermore we think it’s fair to say that most of you gals that are active within the community have at some point reaped. such benefits. You may not realize it but many of our recent opportunities may have not been available years ago. Things like paid bookings, openly “gay/straight” mixed nights at local clubs, speaking engagements and even the chance to participate in local non-profit endeavors. The point being made here is that we are ALL responsible for the image we carry here. Not that any of us are perfect and we have ALL made mistakes, it’s important to recognize them and allow ourselves to evolve.
Sarah realizes that she is not a perfect person BY ANY MEANS, but does recognize that we can LEARN from our mistakes. That’s the best we can hope to do as people. It’s ok to have fun and even go a little wild sometimes but there’s a line that you may approach but never cross. As trans-women active whinin the community is not only our opportunity but our RESPONSIBILITY to be role models and inspire those who may follow us. So children, if nothing else it’s time to remember why you set out on this journey, we must respect ourselves as WOMEN or nobody else will! Okay, now that that’s of our chest (breasts) carry on, it’s back to the business of having fun.
With that being said, its Wednesday folks! This weeks theme is the Pearl Necklace Party. Why? Well it’s the 2nd Anniversary of Dark Lady’s Wed night Ladies Social (actually were a couple months early but who’s counting!) Two years ago (yes, we were there) Dark lady kicked off its new weekly event “The Ladies Social” with the 1st Pearl necklace party. While the original hostesses of the night were four of our neighborhood drag-queens: Favi, Haley, Jenna, Vickey B, the nights original concept was similar. A place that was open and inclusive to all, including gay/straight/drag, trans and their admirerers. While the night has evolved the original concept remains. So this is just our little way of celebrating Wed night which has survived thru so much adversity while also saying thanks to our drag-sisters who pioneered it originally. As well as all the others that believed in us, Buck Randy, Rob, Ron, Erick, Av8 etc. Thank you all, and let’s have some fun tonight!

The Golden Heart Award:

So within these past few days a lot has come about and I’ve come to realize that their will always be those who loathe one’s success and strive to see their demise. These individuals have taken much pleasure in the misfortunes that has unfolded upon me since this past Friday night; and quite honestly I commend their rejoicing… what I have done is no one’s fault but mine. I am now faced with consequences that I can only except and deal with, if anything positive has come about from all this chaos is that: the behavior I’ve expressed is inexcusable and should not be tolerated! My role model and the woman I idolize, Marie Antoinette once stated: “Courage! I have shown it for years; think you I shall lose it at the moment when my sufferings are to end?” This isn’t the end of Parrys Hampton, I guarantee it. From this fall a greater purpose shall raise and maybe it is for this reason that these mishaps has happened.
I want to thank all of you who have expressed concern and have sent me words of comfort and encouragement. Your thoughts have helped significantly, but there was one message that truly touched me deeply. I opened this message the morning of December 07th, before reading it I was in a slump; the stresses and regrets were heavy on my mind but after reading this message 8it dawned on me that yes… there still is kindness and sympathy within this community that at many times only feels cruel and hateful. The message was from Graham Stokes many of you I’m sure are acquainted Graham, well this is what his message read:
Hi Parrys!!!

First, I wanted to say how awesome it is for you to take responsibility for your actions and own up to the consequences without trying to make excuses, even if you could have! That takes the kind of guts and maturity that almost everyone in Providence lacks, so serious props for that!!!

Secondly, I don’t know if this will make the holidays any easier for you or not but my family’s holiday celebrations are pretty much open to whomever shows up, so if you don’t have plans and would like to join us you are more than welcome. (Although, some times we celebrate the day after, I don’t know what this year’s plans are yet… :\) So, feel free. Or feel free to ignore this. Either is cool.
I’m sorry Graham, but anyone who is capable of ignoring a message like this one could only be heartless. I cried for an hour after reading this message, my boyfriend Tommy couldn’t understand why I was crying only up until he also read it and began to cry himself. Thank you Graham… with this short and simple message you reminded me that good people are hard to find.

My Public Apology:

So I’m sure anyone who reads bitchidence.com has heard of the mishaps that I have been getting myself into. To be quite honest most of the reportings have been a little exaggerated, and with all right they should be because over exaggeration is what makes people want to read this shit; but I think it‘s fair to say that for the occurrences that are factual I can only fess up to them and apologizes for my mistakes. I am only human and we have all made mistakes that we grow to regret, I hope that you all can keep this in mind and except my deepest apology. My chaotic behavior for the past few days has been titled the: Parrys Hurricane and even though this is making light of the situation, I guarantee that its after math has left many in shock and leaving many out-raged with all right. I will not make excuses for my childish behaviors and anyone who knows me will testify that they were extreme and uncalled for. The holiday seasons have always been hard on me… I don’t want to whip out the world’s smallest violin and give you all a sad story with the expectations that my antics will be forgiven. I was disowned at the age of sixteen for being “different” having two extremely strict catholic parents, they felt that having nothing to do with me would be the result in solving the embarrassment of a son who only wished to be their daughter. I’ve been on my own for nine years now, not having any communication with my parents and five siblings who want nothing to do with me and my life style as well. Within these past nine years I have struggled with being homeless, battled with alcoholism, and even an attempt of suicide. Within these past few days I have been finding myself out in the night life more often then usual, I will say that most of the cause to my erratic behavior was due to mixing alcohol with other substances and my depression caused by the holidays and the painful thoughts that come to mind around this time of year. Again, there is no excuse for what I have done, and it isn’t even my reputation that I am considered about it is hurting and letting down certain people who are friends and mean a lot to me. I would like to publicly apologize to:

                                                                                                      Parrys Hampton